Marry for money or love or what?

  I am looking at the tragic end of L'Wren. What were her problems? Money? She was in debt. Regarding finance, she was told her boyfriend was not a bottomless pit.
   Is that why he did not marry her? He had already had two marriages and costly divorces.
   Marriage and wills are about: who pays the bills, being financially together, dividing all your assets in half when alive or divorcing, if the other dies automatically inheriting the house and money in the bank.
    Marriage is about money and time. She claimed to want to be independent financially. Maybe she didn't want his money - she wanted his time.
   Marriage also means status. 

Success in relationships and life

Bolivia holds an annual festival every January in which citizens buy teeny models of what they hope to gain in the coming year.
When I lived in Singapore I saw that the Chinese burned paper money and paper houses to symbolise what they wanted their ancestors to receive in the next life. I thought that was a waste of time and effort. But looking at the similar Alasitas festival I feel it makes sense to stick up a picture or model to focus on what we want in this life. It is recommended by many psychological systems. Religion says you should pray. You can tell others what you want to achieve. I remember when my boss eric Webster died another member of staff met me on the stairs by the coffee machine and asked what I wanted to do next. I said I'd been a personal assistant in Pembertons Advertising agency for about a year. Now I wanted to be a copywriter. A few hours later the head of the Copywriting department called me in to be his assistant sending out memos, I was given a job writing copy for the card for the girl who was leaving, I wrote Wishing You A Rosie Future, (her name was Rosie). The copywriter drew a rose - I asked him to draw her face in the middle of it. She was thrilled with her personalised card and the next day I was given my first real copywriting task and then became a full time junior copywriter. So the model serves two function, it helps you focus, and it tells everybody around you what your aims are. The friends and family who see your reminders might speak to you, reinforcing your determination to succeed in your quest. Or they might pass on useful information, such as an advertisement for a job, or bargains at a department store.  Whether you marry off youngsters or concentrate on a job, focus on your aims, with a list, picture or model.

See Bolivia's Alasitas festival 

Banish Monday Blues With Work-Play-Sleep Balance

The reason for disliking Mondays is probably one of these
1 You had a late night Friday or Saturday. Afterwards you got up late Sunday morning. So now your body clock is reset. You are not ready for normal waking time on Monday. You can't sleep at midnight because you are not yet tired and stay awake at night. But you didn't get enough sleep so you are tired in the day. Solution, end late nights at weekend.
2 You went to bed late at the weekend but got up normal time. So you had too little little sleep Sunday. You are tired on Monday. Solution, get eight hours sleep. Or nap in the day and catnap at breaks.
3 You don't like your job. Maybe you should find another job. In another company. Or the same company. Or do a second job or evening job you like as a volunteer.
4 Did you have a day of rest? Monday is a contrast to the weekend. The weekend should be refreshing your energy for a great start on Monday. Maybe you worked through the weekend and now have both a workload and guilt because you can't take time off. Time to delegate. Time to take the weekend off. (Or change jobs.)
4 Everybody talks about hating Mondays. The mood is catching. Stop it. Just talk about how refreshed you feel. How great it is to be back.
5 Everybody asks if you had a good weekend. You didn't. You feel embarrassed and disappointed in your wasted weekend. Stop asking if people had a good weekend. Say it's good to see them again.
6 Do you have any other solutions? If so, tell me. Tell yourself.
7 You are out of sync with the rest of the world. You work at night and evenings and want to rest or go shopping in the day. Others are annoyed because you appear to be doing less. You think you are not doing less, just at different times. But their resentment or anger upsets you. You and workmates all think the others are unfair. Find a job where others work same hours as you. Or change your hours to be in sync with them.

Turn the tide against tragedy?

Another family in the USA where one divorced parent kills themselves and the children. The stresses in life include bereavement, loss of job/income, moving house, and divorce. If we could remove moving house from the divorce equation that might help. How? I recall my friend Sandra who lived in a town house next to her mother. The doors linked their kitchens on the first floor (ground first in the UK, which would be second in the USA). Just like the bedrooms in some hotels where parents and children can have adjoining rooms and you can pop into each other's rooms without having to dress to go out into the corridor or remember door keys.
Can't be that difficult to design adjoining flats or adjoining terraced housing. 

Optimism, pessimism, depression

The positive thought to remember is that life has its ups and downs and if you can wait another year, another month, another week, even another day, some of your problems will go away.